You’ll often think you have “issues” for not trusting others, because society has labelled being overly careful as having “trust issues.”
For this reason, you’ll probably disregard the blaring signal in your mind shouting, “That’s not their business!” or, “Stay away from them!”
In reality though, these signals are part of our instincts, and we’re built with them to protect ourselves. When we put them aside, we can get emotionally injured.
Despite what many think, humans are naturally greedy, naturally inclined to do anything to get ahead in life. This doesn’t apply to everyone, however MANY people will gladly take advantage of others to get something.
Speaking from experience…
I had a friend who I trusted greatly despite only knowing her for a few months. She met someone who was willing to give her information that she so desperately wanted, that she gave away personal information of mine in exchange for what she wanted to hear. Mind you, she didn’t know this person too well, and yet she gladly put our friendship on the line to get answers about something else.
It is beyond me how someone can exchange something so large (like a friendship) for something so small (like gossip). But, there are many cases of this, and therefore you shouldn’t always trust everyone you meet.
However…
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t build relationships with others. There are good people out there, but finding them requires patience.
Just know, your instincts are usually right, and if they’re telling you to be reserved around someone, trust them.
Your trust should be earned.
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