TMT: Failure is defined by your mindset

photo taken by me! 🙂

I missed my first two-minute talk Tuesday, but I’ll make an exception because this week has been hectic for me. Today will be two-minute talk Wednesday!

The topic will be about dealing with failure/changing your mindset about the concept of failure.

Failure is known as a lack of success, but I think that depends on one’s mindset. If you have the mindset of “everything happens for a reason,” then do you ever really lack success?

If you have the mindset that every challenge you encounter is a learning process, then is failing all that bad? Isn’t it just another driving force to future success? Having the mindset of a champion erases failure from one’s vocabulary. Failure becomes a misstep, a hiccup in the long run.


Imagine you don’t get hired for the job you applied for. Was it really a loss, or a redirection?

Let’s say you lose a sports game. You can look at it in different ways: 1. You could’ve done better, and you should be upset about your bad performance. 2. You could’ve improved one or more specific things, you decide to work on these things, and in the future, you have something to compare your success to.

At the end of the day, if we never lose and never fail, our success lacks meaning. Our success lacks depth when all we do is succeed, and I consider myself to be a prime example of this.

In my case, failure in school was never an option. Not because of anyone else’s expectations, but because of my own. Therefore, an A in a class wasn’t necessarily a reason to celebrate as it was expected. However, when I got my first B in a math class this year, I felt awful.

Despite my “always win” mentality, this sullen feeling soon faded away. It soon turned into pride. I was proud of the B I earned in my Precalculus class, knowing how much I struggled with the material. And this pushed me beyond all limits to get an A in the second quarter of the school year. Almost every morning I woke up and told myself “I will get an A in AP Precalc this quarter.” Matter of fact, I made it more specific than that. “I will get a 98% in Precalc this quarter. No loss, all gain.” And I didn’t care about the B from first quarter anymore, because what happened was now a thing of the past.

Grand reveal: I got a 92% that quarter. It wasn’t a 98, but I got what I fought for, an A.

And do I sound a bit psycho, concerning myself over a letter grade? Maybe. But it wasn’t just about the grade. It was about bouncing back from a failure, and not settling for less in the future because of past mistakes.

The moral of the story is that failure allows you to fight for future success. It gives your success meaning, it teaches you a lesson, and it’s sometimes necessary when things aren’t meant to be.

-Nicole 🤍


9 responses to “TMT: Failure is defined by your mindset”

  1. definitely agree, gotta put mistakes in the past and move forward.

    1. Lia :) Avatar
      Lia 🙂

      This is great advice. Spending so much time overthinking your past failures is harmful for your mental health and won’t let you move on and do better things.

      1. In order to achieve future goals you shouldn’t dwell on the past! You’re right!

  2. Omg this has helped me so much when playing sports, it’s really pushed me to not only to to win but do my best while trying to!

    1. That’s amazing! It’s important to value the learning process as much as the results. 🫶🏼

    2. I play volleyball and I think the small mistakes really get to me sometimes but seeing the bigger picture as each mistake let’s me grow helps me avoid that mistake in the future when it matters most which has been so beneficial.

  3. Everything is ultimately in the mind. Your strength comes from there.

  4. What if I fail in something I really want? Like I’ve done everything to make it happen and it still doesn’t work?

    1. Personally, I believe it wasn’t meant to be. Now, not everyone agrees that everything happens for a reason, so honestly, it depends on your perspective on life. However, I think that if you’ve put in effort to achieve something and didn’t get the results you wanted, it’s not necessarily a failure, but a redirection to a new path that may be more suitable for you or an opportunity to learn and grow. (These are my opinions only).

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