It may be Autumn, but The Beach Boys are still on repeat. If Kokomo lifts my spirits, I’ll allow it to.
Dry Creek Wrangler School on YouTube, and DeWayne, the channel’s creator, may be my favorite source of wisdom daily.
Sometimes things are just hard, and all you have are the small things. Sometimes no one is there, all your stares are blank, every window helps you escape, and you can’t fall asleep because of your spinning mind.
As usual, I’ll be your reminder that pain is temporary. If no one has told you, allow me to tell you, I love you.
You are capable of so much, even when everyone around you wants to tear you down. Find a small something and grasp onto it. Push forward with it. It could be a mourning dove’s coos, the flowers growing in your backyard, car rides, burning candles, romantic books, fuzzy socks, anything. If there is one thing I say that you must trust, it’s that everything will be okay.
Life throws curveballs at you, but stay strong and keep standing straight. Have faith.
Exhaustion
If you’re exhausted, identify your exhaustion. Is it physical, mental, or emotional? Always remember that rest is necessary. Step away from your burden. At times, you may need to come back with the intent of carrying on with that burden. For example, if you’re struggling at your school or job, rest with the intent of going back stronger and with a clear mind. Do not sink in your pain, do not let it swallow you whole. Tackle it or step away from it.
Relationships
Sometimes relationships struggle, and this is natural. I think it’s important to know that you are your own best friend at times. When everyone around you turns away, or maybe you’re in a place where you can’t find the right people, time will help you or you’ll help yourself.
I know I get lonely sometimes, but at the end of the day, I may be the only person that stays forever. Same for you.
Even a lifelong partner can’t understand you better than you understand yourself. Embrace that. Enjoy your solitude as much as you can because people can leave, but you can’t leave yourself. That can be such a beautiful thing, so make sure to take care of yourself.
Self-love
Love your body, love your heart, and love your soul. You don’t need someone to teach you to love yourself. You don’t need to give someone the power to influence when you do or don’t love yourself.
Loving yourself takes time, practice, and learning. If you don’t discover more about yourself, you can’t grow and become a better person.
Spend time finding ways to improve yourself and the Earth, and self-love will eventually follow.
Memories
Keep your head facing forward. You may need to grieve what you’ve left behind in life, but life is a one-way road and it goes forward.
You can always create incredible new memories even when life feels bland. Life is full of surprises, and never doubt that good things will come soon.
After moving a few years ago, life felt hard and I missed my home state deeply. With time, however, life got easier and I found the positives in my new home. I’ll always love who I used to be in that old environment, miss my friends and family, and smile when I recall moments from my childhood.
But life moves on. Some days I wish more than anything that I could wake up in my old bedroom and go outside to run, bike, and play for hours in my neighborhood park. My life just isn’t like that anymore, and it’s something I need to accept. No good comes from resenting the move or growing up.
It’s just life.
Things may be out of your control, but when you learn to find the good in everything, the good will find you too.
With that, we’ll conclude this post.
For anyone struggling, feel free to be open in the comments, as I will reply to all with support.
For anybody impacted by hurricane Helene or Milton, my thoughts are with you and I’ll keep you in my prayers. 🙏
Donate to the Hurricane Relief Fund here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/enxh8-hurricane-relief-fund
Helene:
https://www.gofundme.com/c/act/hurricane-helene
Milton:
https://www.gofundme.com/c/act/hurricane-milton
Have a blessed day, Nicole.
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